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Queer as an NBA Point Guard

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 A Man in Uniform?

Chris Culliver
Player

Former NBA coach Phil Jackson made news of a sort this week when he asserted that he had “never run into” a gay professional basketball player.

And, according to Huff Post, San Francisco 49ers player Chris Culliver told Artie Lange that he would not welcome gay players in the NFL or on his team. “I don’t do the gay guys, man,” Culliver is quoted as saying in a pre-Super Bowl interview. “I don’t do that. No, we don’t got no gay people on the team, they gotta get up out of here if they do.”

Finally, the week ended with ESPN leaking tapes of Rutger’s basketball coach Mike Rice physically abusing players while calling them faggots and worse.

Sports in America may be the last bastion of the homophobe, a place where it is till OK, cool even, to deny that gays and lesbians are part of the game–indeed, that they even exist.

Randy Phillips
Soldier

A Real Man in Uniform

Steven Randy Phillips is, serendipitously, from Eclectic, Alabama.

He is an Airman in the United States Air Force and has served his country in the Persian Gulf and elsewhere.

Phillips is gay and used social media to proclaim his sexuality in 2011.

It is beyond ironic, even bizarre, that gay and lesbian men and women risk their lives to protect our country, police our cities, fight our fires and rescue us generally yet we condone and even idolize athletes and coaches who blatantly discriminate based on human sexuality.

The truth is that Phil Jackson, Chris Culver, and Mike Rice aren’t fit to shine Randy Phillips’s boots or for that matter, the boots of any of the thousands of other gay and lesbian soldiers, sailors, police officers, paramedics or firefighters who keep America safe.

Posted by on April 7, 2013 • Filed under: Administration & Leadership, Command & Leadership, Sex, Values and Ethics, War and Peace

Sex Academy: Slut, Dyke or Bitch

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Air Force Leaders Before Congress

Members of Congress, unable to perform chores of state, called senior members of the US Air Force to testify this week over the Lackland AFB Sex/Training scandal.  It may not be more important than a “fiscal cliff” or “debt ceiling” but it is certainly more titillating.

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The Lackland case apparently includes 32 instructors sexually abusing or assaulting at least 59 recruits.  The NYT reports that two instructors had “sexual encounters” with at  least ten different recruits each.

Stars and Stripes reports that in 2011 there were 2,933 people investigated by DOD for sexual assault.   Of those, charges have been preferred in 489 cases and  191 people have been convicted.

Air Force Chief of Staff Mark A. Welsh III has said that the biggest barrier to change is the reluctance of women to come forward to complain.  One wonders if General Welsh has seen the conviction statistics?  The odds of action are not very good.

In the Marines at least,  the general presumption is that women “want it.”  Beginning at Parris Island they are taught there are three kinds of Marine women:  if you have contact with a male Marine you are a “slut.”  ”Dyke” may or may not be a lesbian.  Katie Appledorn, herself a Marine, said that, “Bitch is what you are supposed to be…You don’t give the men around you an inch.”  Being a bitch is best and safest.  (Sexual desire on the part of women makes them a whore while the same from a male is natural behavior:  go for it.)

It has been said that “Academic training environments create an unforgivable imbalance of power which makes students vulnerable.”  The power imbalance makes the issue of potential sexual abuse real and serious as Lackland shows.  It also makes it difficult (or just about impossible)  to navigate the notion of consensual sex in such an environment.

The instructors at Lackland were little more than kids in a  candy store.  And, in keeping with the military’s new tolerance of gays, a male instructor stands accused of sexual misconduct with two male students.

Of course, fire and rescue academies face the same challenges and have the same problems as the military.  ”Drill” environments where instructors have at the least the perception of unlimited power can have great potential for incorrect “signals” and unwanted advances.  Sexual conduct in an academy environment between instructors and students, consensual or otherwise, is fraught with danger.  Lackland proves the case.

The inherent power imbalance between staff and students is vivid testimony for recruit firefighters in our profession to be union members from their first day in the academy.  Effective union representation offsets the power imbalance and helps to ensure that recruits are employees and not the candy behind the counter.

Posted by on January 25, 2013 • Filed under: Administration & Leadership, Command & Leadership, Firefighter Politics, Safety and Health, Sex, Values and Ethics

The Enema Within

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Giving “High Colonic” a Whole New Meaning

“Greek” House?

The University of Tennessee student, Alexander P. Broughton of Pi Kappa Alpha, who was transported to an emergency room with a blood-alcohol level of nearly .45, has hired an attorney to refute the accusation, leveled by police and the university, that he achieved the feat through the use of an enema-like anal transfusion of boxed red wine.

The recent trend of imbibing via the “back-4-0″ may have vintners on the edge of their seat, so to speak, as only two or three ounces can result in extreme inebriation.  Police photos of the frat house could be mistaken for a field hospital in Aleppo, Syria, as it is strewn with rubbish and blood smears.  These dudes can throw a party.

Post Party

In place of the enema story, Mr. Broughton has a more refined, wholesome and staid version, according to the Times Free Press, “He described the drinking as part of a game called “Tour de Franzia,” based on seeing who can drink the most wine straight from the box without throwing up.”

It is apparently OK to achieve a nearly fatal state of drunkenness as long as the alcohol is ingested via the normal route.  The use of an alternate, albeit novel, method detracts from the otherwise time-honored American activity of binge drinking.  Perhaps the unsightly trauma of vomiting is avoided as the stomach is spared the alcoholic onslaught, thus allowing the merry times to begin more rapidly.

Worst of all, the otherwise upstanding student has been forced to deny accusations of homosexuality apparently linked to the enema charge.  It’s unclear whether enemas cause homosexuality or homosexuals share a predilection for enemas.  If having a tube up your arse makes you gay, my doctor has some serious explaining to do.

While there can be little doubt that Mr. Broughton has little, if any, recollection of the night’s events, calling a press conference and saying it did not occur is a risky strategy.  Several people saved his life, both in and out of the E.R. and it appears as if he is calling them liars.

That’s way worse than the incident itself.

May I see your wine list, please?

 

 

 

Posted by on October 5, 2012 • Filed under: Safety and Health, Sex, Special Operations

Package Check: Blame it on the Ladies

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The Incredible Shrinking Weenie

Any list of the least credible information sources would undoubtedly include Italian researchers and, of course, our own Rush.  In fact, that may be the only match-up where Italians come out first.

Weener Dog

It seems that the Italians have been researching the size of the male sexual organ, hard work if you can get it, and have determined that it has shrunk in size 10% over the last 50 years.  (Though it’s not clear, I assume they mean newly arriving penises are smaller rather than losing what I already have, though I am sure there is a medication for that, too.)

According to Rush, they cite air pollution as the reason though he is inclined to blame it on “feminazis”, presumably women who exhibit ability outside the kitchen or the bedroom.

At long last, a reason to be over 50.

Posted by on September 22, 2012 • Filed under: A Life, Different, Sex

Was It Good For You?

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Naomi Gets Her Groove Back

Ms. Wolfe

‘I realised one day, as I gazed out on the treetops outside the bedroom of our little cottage, that the usual post-coital rush of a sense of vitality infusing the world, of delight with myself and with all around me, and of creative energy rushing through everything alive, was no longer following the physical pleasure.

Naomi Wolfe in the Mail Online

Ms. Wolfe, author, consultant and feminist, has a new book out entitled, Vagina: a New Biography, which is apparently just that, wherein she details the loss and subsequent recovery of a full-fledged orgasm.  The Amazon review gushes, “Utterly enthralling and totally fascinating”, “Exhilarating and groundbreaking.”  Many are those who have found the vagina enthralling, fascinating and certainly exhilarating.  Groundbreaking?  We’re not so sure.

During her career Ms. Wolfe has weighed in on a range of topics spanning abortion,  democracy, pornography, freedom in post-9/11 America and women in Islamic culture.  (What must the mullahs be thinking about this latest creation?)

She even assisted with Bill Clinton’s 1996 re-election bid, “brainstorming with the president’s team about ways to reach female voters”, something that Mr. Clinton seems to have figured out on his own.

Feminism is steeped in the culture of liberation.  After all, feminists express their emerging awareness and power through public expression where their new found status is celebrated.  But the culture of liberation is hardly confined to women.  It is as old as we are.  Radical Americans like  Adams and Otis in the 18th century,  pamphlet-ed and protested to celebrate their burgeoning freedom.  What they didn’t do was write about the last time they got off and what they thought about afterwards.

Ben Franklin

Even Ben Franklin, still amorous in his eighties, kept his sexual dalliances and reflections about them, private.  (Franklin was neither a puritan nor a prude; perhaps he thought he would be taken more seriously if he kept his ejaculations to himself.)

It is true that people who have been effectively punished through sexual repression have basic rights, at least in America, to express themselves in order to gain equal status with oppressors.  It takes courage and conviction to fight to be free, especially when equality is based on the norms of oppressors.

But, Ms. Wolfe, with her nearly encyclopedic oeuvre, from abortion rights to democracy and on to Islamic culture, has sought to be a modern day Apostle Paul who said, “I have become all things to all people…”  Even for Ms. Wolfe, it just cannot be done without a cost.  Can even the most savvy intellectual dabble both in fascism and orgasm and still maintain a serious public persona?

How we deal publicly with the issue of sex is fascinating.  Most people engage in it while maintaining a general reticence about public discussion of the mechanics or the pleasure of it. In our “share all” age via Twitter, Facebook, etc., perhaps we are destined to dissect our latest sexual experience in the style of a restaurant review:  ”The service was great but the main course arrived cold.”

On that level sex manages to be simply banal.  It’s just another bodily function like eating, sleeping or going to the bathroom.  Perhaps Ms. Wolfe’s next book will explore her regularity and how she achieved it.  Metamucil or high-fiber?  (I sat on the toilet staring at the blossoming roses, seemingly finished but still with that bloated feeling…)

True societal  liberation is probably incremental.  It takes decades or longer for people to come to terms with change.  Is Ms. Wolfe the future?  Can we expect serious thinkers and leaders on the order of Condoleezza Rice or the presidential candidates to switch seamlessly from foreign policy or the economy to the  intensity of their last orgasm?  Let’s hope not.

In keeping with its weighty content, Vagina is slated for “release” on September 11.

 

(Sources:  Wiki, Daily Mail, Amazon)

 

 

 

 

 

 

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2193849/Feminist-Naomi-Wolf-finds-enjoyment-sex-nerve-wiring-repaired-surgeon.html#ixzz24iJorQqh

Posted by on August 29, 2012 • Filed under: Administration & Leadership, Sex, Values and Ethics

Rape: The “Survey”

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Some Sigma Phi Epsilon Fraternity members at the University of Vermont are alleged to have disseminated a “survey” last week which apparently included questions such as, “who they would like to rape.”

USA Today reports that Wes Lewis, a former Fraternity member, said, “it was not a survey, but it was a series of questions between a few individuals.”  (A classic attempt at spin, if ever there was one.)

One of the University officials tasked with investigating the matter was quick to point out that it was, in part, a matter of free speech.  (Could this have been what the Founding Fathers had in mind?)

The act of rape, of course, is about unwanted sex using power and domination and is an especially cruel and vicious crime.

Musing, verbally or in writing, about who you would rape if you could, may or may not suggest a predilection to commit the act itself–it may in the end just be a case of immaturity combined with stupidity.

But while these rascals are called to account for their idiocy, it deserves to be mentioned that human sexuality contains a persistent thread of energy or electricity grounded in aggression, domination and subordination.  Much sexual gratification is gained through consenting adults engaging in sexual play and acts where they take power over or give up that same power to their partner(s).  Video and print eroticism is rife with imagery of “forced” sexual acts involving bondage and the infliction of pain which imply the circumstances of involuntary sexual activity or rape.  People must find it enormously arousing or it would not exist as a method of fueling sexual desire.

(The phrase “Jesus Christ” in a google search nets 27,600,000 hits. “Rape porn” gets 49,000,000.)

But, it’s not just eroticism.  Thanks to the Internet and the culture it has inspired, there are hundreds of sites where sexual “want ads”, free or otherwise, can be placed and answered.  Thousands of these ads use the visual and verbal symbolism of rape and forced sex as people seek out opportunities to fulfill sexual fantasies where, again, they give up or take sexual power.

Of course, one could say that the crucial difference is that these ad-based sexual fantasies are rooted in consensual behavior.  That’s true but it’s also true that society tolerates nearly boundless sexual freedom among consenting adults, including sexual gratification through forced-sex fantasy and then figuratively castrates a few young men when their horniness breaks the surface of their fraternal cesspool and comes, momentarily, to our attention.

The very privacy of the act(s) of sexual fulfillment both protect and advance the power of forced sex imagery.  The Internet, and the role it plays in matching up sexual partners with those of like-minded desires and fantasies, has made immediate sexual gratification easy though the after effects may be slightly more complicated.

I don’t for a second condone their reckless carnal questions but at the same time I am amused at the Press’s collective gasp of horror when many more than just a few find covert and intense pleasure in the subtext of faux forced sex as a prime motivator in sexual gratification.

After all, fantasy is a “breeding ground” for reality, our sexual hypocrisy notwithstanding.

See you online.

Posted by on December 19, 2011 • Filed under: Sex, Values and Ethics, Words

Sex in the City: Brits Teach Us a Thing or Two

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I don’t know about you, but when I am pondering life long ago, or sort of long ago, I am always thinking that it was boring back then but people were better, more honest, more moral.  Surely all the crazy tacky behavior we read and hear about today is an invention of modern culture.  Well, not so fast.

Trolling in the second hand book store recently, (for books),  I found myself looking at a copy of Clair Tomalin’s acclaimed “Samuel Pepys, the Unequaled Self.” (That’s Pepys as in my “peeps.”)

Some will know that Pepys is perhaps the best known diarist in the world. For about ten years, from 1660-1669, he kept an extremely detailed diary of life in London as he prospered in a variety of positions related to the British Admiralty.  It is through Pepys that we know about the Great Fire of London in 1666 and also about the plague that ravaged the City.

No detail was too big or small for the diary.  He kept it in shorthand to protect the contents and when he was writing about his sexual activity, he also used non-English words as a further ruse to the casual reader.  There are a lot of non-English words in the Diary.

I frankly had no idea.  The scales, as they say, have fallen from eyes. Pepys, a 17th century man, would fit well and nicely in the 21st, which brings me to the story at hand.

The Daily Telegraph reports that one of Britain’s richest and most successful couples was arrested in late summer in an Orlando, Florida, nightclub bathroom stall that must have been really crowded.  It seems that Mary Gorman, wife of Chris, was engaging in a consensual sexual act with a third party as Chris looked on. (That’s a decent enough bloke for you.)  The trouble began when the police arrived, perhaps to issue a ticket for stall over-crowding, and witnessed the above referenced act, not to mention Ms. Gorman’s cocaine stash.

To add insult to injury, it turns out that the Queen of England conferred the Order of the British Empire on Chris Gorman in 2005 for his good works and we presume, his thoroughly amiable personality.

Apart from the cocaine, did the police over react?  After all, the quest for consensual bathroom sex,  as Larry “wide stance” Craig taught us, is hardly a capitol crime.  And if we are still not sure, we can summon up the spirit of Samuel Pepys to hear a view from the deepest past.

A reading of the Diary suggests that our friend Sam would have thought jolly well of the whole affair.

Who says we can’t learn a thing or two from the Brits (and the past)?

 

Posted by on November 3, 2011 • Filed under: Different, Sex • Tagged: , , , ,